Mentalizing words
When I'm mentalizing, I’m talking (or thinking) like this:
Hmm..
Might...
Maybe...
What if...
I wonder what’s was going on for him when he did that?
I’m not following. Help me understand...
I could be wrong...
Do you see it differently?
Have I got that right? What have I missed?
I don’t think I get what you mean...
I wondered if...
I don’t know, but it seems like...
I can't know exactly how that feels for you, but I imagine I might feel..
I feel quite certain that I know what you feel, but that makes me think I should question this certainty. I've often been wrong before, so...
When I’m not mentalizing, I’m talking (or thinking like this)
You are just...
I just know…
You’re definitely...
She always...
He never...
Everyone thinks...
We all feel the same....
Anyone in that situation would do exactly the same...
Women will always try to… / boys are just… / children always want to… / all teachers are… / americans are just like that... / generalizing whole groups of people (if we were mentalizing, instead, we’d be trying to understand this individual, in this particular moment)